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My name is Jonathan, although I’m called johnny, jon, and various other nick names. I am the average baby boomer male. I am not a Doctor, Lawyer or a Indian Chief. I’m not an professional athlete. I’m not who I thought I would be when I sat on my steps, and dreamed about who I’d be when I grew up. Somewhere along the way, the world changed from the carefree easy life I knew to this complicated, frustrating, confusion sphere of constant change, and upheaval. Life became a series of adventures some good, some not so much. Each adventure adding character to my being, shaping me into who I am, and what I’d be.

I grew up in a small village of poor factory workers who slaved away for 45 to 50 hours a week to scrape out a meager existence. I lived in a house that resembled every other house on the block. Of course, I had to live on the block that had twice as many girls as boys, and the boys were either five years older, or five years younger. The average family was 2.5 kids with a dog, and one car. The kids played sports, went to school, and all dreamed of a better life, somewhere else. We weren’t city kids, and not quite farm or country either. We were tagged rednecks later, when such labels were applied and everyone had one. I grew up in a small village of poor factory workers who slaved away for 45 to 50 hours a week to scrap out a meager existence. I lived in a house that resembled every other house on the block. Of course, I had to live on the block that had twice as many girls as boys, and the boys were either five years older, or five years younger. The average family was 2.5 kids with a dog, and one car. The kids played sports, went to school, and all dreamed of a better life, somewhere else. We weren’t city kids, and not quite farm or country either. We were tagged rednecks later, when such labels were applied and everyone had one.

I always wanted to be involved in athletics one way or another. I played seasonal sports like all the other kids, We got up early, headed to the nearest ball field or vacant lot and played baseball until dark came, someone got hit with a ball, or until someones parent showed up and called off the game due to darkness or because “I said so”. I had friends who were naturals, in any sport. They could hit, throw, and run better than the rest of us. Some just settled for being mediocre but not me. I worked hard to get better at sports; baseball in general was my favorite game. I found that I could read books and magazines to learn tips, tricks and skill enhancement drills. We had a full set of encyclopedias that I read like some kids would read comics. I talked to the older kids, coaches, team mates, friends sometimes random people. The lesson I learned was “If I don’t know it, I can find it.” I carried that lesson with me throughout my childhood, teens, and into adult hood. The answer is out there, you just have to find it. – I researched all the time , I kept a library card active well into my twenties through my first marriage, into my second and still have one to this day. When the internet was created, and discovered by me, I had high hopes for more information. Finally some fifty years later the internet is an endless collection of information which we can access. Today the internet does thrive and there are infinite numbers of websites, resources on every subject imaginable and some that we never imagined, and some well… we never thought of them. Some of the information is great, others are just pure cow pasture samplings. The whole purpose of my writings is to provide first hand logical, easy to understand information for those that have the curiosity, interest, want and need of fitness. I’ll help you determine what fitness is to you, what its not, how to get it, and how not to be suckered into someone else’s get fit get rich quick schemes.. I’ll also answer your questions and requests for advice.

Fitness is defined as Fitness: 1 The condition of being physically fit and healthy. 2 the quality of being suitable to fulfill a particular role or task.3 an organism’s ability to survive and reproduce in a particular environment.

So if your are me, and you read this the first time as a impressionable child, this doesn’t tell you a thing. I became a Certified Personal Trainer with multiple certifications who came up with my own definition of what fitness means to me. Fitness is the combination of strength, flexibility, coordination, balance and mental acuityability to perform daily activities, tasks and skills, and continue to improve the level of performance of them, to ensure that the quality of life and enjoyment of, will always be in the state of constant and never ending improvement.

The carton came with three bars, one long two short, very thin, and hollow filled with dirt or something, the weights, gold in color, same filling, some collars and 110 pounds of weights and A standard weight bench. There was a manual which the first page was how to assemble, and the second page with the three exercises that you needed to get in shape; the bench press, the shoulder press and the squat. The basement in our house wasn’t tall enough to allow standing shoulder press, and I wasn’t smart enough to figure out how to squat from a weight bench. So I did a lot of bench press, day one I found out why collars are important, after I launched myself off the bench like a stone from a roman catapult. Day two I found out why you don’t load the whole set on the bar, without a spotter. It took me a half of hour to get the weights off my chest and onto the floor. I went to the library where I learned about bicep curls. So now I had all the tools I needed, right? I went to work, every waking moment was spent down in the basement, and I worked my way up to the 90 pounds on the barbell. I wasn’t getting any closer to looking like Charles Atlas. I had the tools, but something was missing, but what?

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A Shot and a GOOOAL!

What exactly is a goal ? A point scored, The object of a person’s ambition, effort or aim, the destination of a journey, or a point marking the end of a race? Yes to all of these, but to you what does a goal mean, and how do you achieve them? That answer is going to be different to each and every one who has ever had a goal. Let’s take goal and really break down to what it really is. All goals start somewhere as a dream, idea, or even a hunch. What takes a goal from a dream is desire, belief and successful implementation. When you decide to set a goal, make sure it’s worth your time, effort, sacrifice and you’re fully willing to make ALL the life style changes required for that goal, or it’s not a goal, it’s a waste of time.

So how does that work, what does it look like, feel like? You have an idea, you start to desire it, want it and if properly fed and nurtured, it becomes a want, then a need. When you start thinking about how that idea, would improve something in your life, or life itself, it becomes a need and starts to take shape. It grows, and as it grows you start to see that just wishing for it isn’t going to make it happen. You realize that you will have to work for it, sacrifice to get it and are willing to make it unpleasant or even painful if need be to obtain it. Congratulations you have given a birth to a goal.

Your goal requires some basic steps, examination, planning, execution and re-evaluation. Yeah? Piece of cake, right ? It’s been my experience with helping others and myself that a majority of goals die, in this phase. When I say examine, what I mean is study, learn, research, and go deep about everything about the goal. If your goal is to become a better student, discover what the most acceptable description of a good student is first. My favorite definition of a student is “ a person who takes an interest in a particular subject.” The best student would want to learn everything about each subject. If you wanted to learn how to be a better student, you examine and determine what that means to you. Does it mean better grades? better test scores? A comprehensive knowledge about the subject with the ability to converse about the subject or subjects at great length and be considered to be knowledgeable by subject matter experts, peers and others with an interest in the subject. I’m normally the latter. I want to know everything I can about it.

Next let’s examine the goal. What does a better student do? How do they do it? What are their successful habits? Where do they find the best resources? Dig into it, deeply. Research great former great students, research and examine them. Even better find a mentor! This means you want to find someone who is great at your goal, ask them for advice, talk to them, write them or call. Ask them questions, start with the ones above and add the what ?, Why ? and How? Develop sub questions until you reach the atom of each. So, let’s take Stan, the person with the straight A’s in all your classes, what does he do? Let’s say we talk to Stan and he says he reads a chapter ahead of when the teachers makes it a requirement, takes very detailed notes on his readings and in each class, then researches his notes to the next step, deeper level, keeps digging and exploring, tracks down a mentor, maybe a teacher or other expert in the field and asks them questions based on his research to make sure he’s is on the right track. This is why Stan can answer the questions all the time. You thought Stan was just born smart? Just plain lucky? Naw. Stan works his tail off to be overly prepared.

The planning stage is where we take out examination data and develop the plan. So again, you need to develop your plan based on what works for you. Determine when the best time for you to research? Do you feel more mentally alert in the morning, or at the end of your day? Do you need silence ? Do you prefer to have study partners ? Where do you like to study, in the library , at home or maybe at school? Do you learn better by taking notes?, reading or a combination of both? When do you like to do your research during or after the reading? Your personal preferences will be how you layout your plans for your goal. It may be a period of trial and error but that’s fine, it’s how you learn.

By far the hardest step of any of the steps to goal setting and achievement is execution. It will test your mettle, your spirit and determination. You will have to sacrifice, put others wants and needs on the back burners, and make the goal a major priority. Ever notice how when a Olympic or professional athlete is asked about his journey, the word sacrifice is one of the most, if not the most mentioned word? You don’t hear about the normal distractions of life, like vacations, partying, dating… it’s because in order to achieve the goal, it has to be a high priority. Let me say it again. When you set a goal, and you want to succeed, it has to be THE priority in your life. Everything else takes a back seat. What that looks like, is you get up before work at O-dark thirty am, get down to the gym, do your planned workout, squeezing every ounce of energy into it. You never miss a day because that’s unacceptable. It means that on some odd chance you miss, you now have a penalty, perhaps no coffee, no snacks, or lunch at work. If you don’t set rules, and have unyielding consequences for those rules you wont follow them. In example there is a no left turn sign in my neighborhood, its there Im sure because during normal traffic hours a left turn could cause an accident a high percentage of time. When I’m leaving to go to the gym at zero dark thirty, and there’s no one else on the road, I KNOW the percentage drops dramatically, the potential consequences are reduced. I also know that at that time of the day, the local law enforcement isn’t going to monitor that area as tightly during high traffic areas. I take the left turn and head to the gym. No consequences makes breaking a rule, or goal that much easier.

You must know your goal, everything about it, you have to live it, feel it, see it. Most important is the belief in the goal!. . Write this down!. What the mind believes the body will achieve. Fact. If you set a goal, believe that you will reach the goal, and KNOW that you will succeed. Your actions re-enforce the belief. your mind will force you to make the changes to reach that goal.

Re-evaluate your goal, constantly. You set a goal of losing ten pounds. It happens now what? Constantly challenge yourself with goals that are somewhat harder than the previous. Goals are lifestyle changes. If they are not, they aren’t a goal, but rather a temporary fix. When I quit smoking, for good the last time, I knew\know that I could never smoke again, or I’d go right back to the bad habit. I had to change how I dealt with stress, what I did when I needed to get away from my desk, when I went out for a beer, everything in my life changed. It no longer existed in my life. I use this every time I set a goal, of any type, size or length of time, or I don’t set it. It’s all or nothing. In the next entry I’m going to dive deeper into the goal setting and development process. You’ll see it becomes a living breathing thing. Read the next Post , A Goal is Born to get more details on the whole process

A Goal is Born

To successfully create a goal, as I said before, you need to make it a living, breathing thing. Just thinking it isn’t enough. I want to really dive into the goal stage, step by step, from inception to completion.

I have an idea, I want to do X. The goal is born, if I want this goal to become real and viable, I have to make it a living, breathing thing. I always write or type my goals out. I want to have it in a concrete touchable form. The goal has to be defined out, describe it, make it so you can see it. When I quit smoking, I wrote out the goal similar to this

“I’m going to quit smoking by January 1, 2005. I’m going to begin my limiting the locations where I can smoke. I’m going to place restrictions on the times I smoke. I’m going to limit myself to how many a day I can have, and reduce that daily until I am down to zero a day. I realize the reason I smoke is to calm myself during stressful situations. I’m going to discover new and better ways to deal with stress. I will succeed. I will feel better, have better breathing, smell better, and I will be saving over $2000.00 a year.”

Step 1 define the goal. I’m going to quit smoking by January 1, 2005 Write out exactly what the accomplishment will be. Make sure your statement doesn’t contain any negatives. I could’ve said I’m not going to smoke anymore, but NOT is a negative and the last thing I want in my mind at this point is a negative. Establish when it will be accomplished. Setting a due date makes the goal breathe. You now have a sense of timing and urgency involved. Detail How will you accomplish the goal. I’m going to begin my limiting the locations where I can smoke. I’m going to place restrictions on the times I smoke. I’m going to limit myself to how many a day I can have, and reduce that daily until I am down to zero a day. This is the marching orders of the goal, the planning stage. Again no negatives. Clear and to the point. These are the steps you will take to reach your goal. As you’ll see later ,these will become even more defined as you go along. You’ll make it nearly impossible to fail! Here’s the cause, the why, and your first what. I realize the reason I smoke is to calm myself during stressful situations. I’m going to discover new and better ways to deal with stress. This is one of the hardest parts of the goal, because you have to look at you, and determine why you have or do X and why you want to change it. You can say I want to lose weight. Ok great. WHY do you have extra weight you want to lose. Is it because poor eating habits? Maybe you need to learn more about nutrition? Do you stress eat?, maybe you need to find better ways of dealing with stress. You eat when you are bored. You need to find something else to occupy your mind and body. What ever the issue that is holding you back, find it, own it, and change it! I will succeed. I will feel better, have better breathing, smell better, and I will be saving over $2000.00 a year. What will your goal yield for you? Whats the benefits you will receive? if there is no pleasureful event, or stimuli at the completion, why would you do it? simple answer you won’t. Thats step one, you’ve defined your goal. it’s alive, breathing. Now, lets keep it alive.

Step 2, What if’s ? The goal you spelled out above is still an infant. It needs help, food, TLC and guidance. The most important part of your goal is being able observe, improvise and adapt. Take this part for instance. ” I’m going to begin my limiting the locations where I can smoke. I’m going to place restrictions on the times I smoke. I’m going to limit myself to how many a day I can have, and reduce that daily until I am down to zero a day” What I did was limit where I could smoke. I didn’t smoke in the house, the family car, or in my office . Before too long, I was at someones house who did smoke in his house. I didn’t want to fall back on my progress, so I amended the limit, by saying I wont smoke in any house. The same went on for smoking in cars. Then I added not smoking in front of or around my wife and family. By adapting the goal as you progress, you ensure your success. Keep the goal flexible, watch for traps and always be ready to strengthen it. Using this principle , the limitations got more strenuous as I got stronger. Soon, I had cut down to two or three cigarettes a day. Then the goal became, I’m not going to smoke at all. If I can cut down to two a day, then I can cut down to none. I did and it worked. Remember in order to stop a bad habit there must be punitive measures applied. Basically the bad habit must have discomfort or pain attached. While doing a good habit should be pleasurable. If you continue to practice the bad habit, with no consequences or inconveniences , why would you ever stop?

Making a change without knowing why is a recipe for failure. In my goal above I wrote “I realize the reason I smoke is to calm myself during stressful situations. I’m going to discover new and better ways to deal with stress. ” If I didn’t address the excuse for smoking, the next time it came along, I give myself permission to relapse. First thing even before I cut down on smoking I started changing the way I dealt with stress. I identified the situations that caused me the greatest stress, and researched ways to handle them better. I learned new strategies and techniques and then put them into practice. One of the things I came across was vigorous exercise helped reduce stress. I started working out and joined a gym. When I had a rough day I worked out.

Make it worth your while, explain what the benefits are for the completion on the goal. Near the end of the goal I wrote, “I will succeed. I will feel better, have better breathing, smell better, and I will be saving over $2000.00 a year.” The first half of this statement is key, I WILL. When a batter walks into the batters box, they think only of hitting the pitch. If you allow failure into your thoughts, you’ve already struck out. The next statement “I will feel better, have better breathing, smell better and I will be saving… ” This is what stopping smoking WILL do for me. better health, and saving money. I couldn’t wait for those to kick in. On the days, when I was struggling it was the promised feeling better that keep me going. “when this is over, I’m going to feel so much better.” When you spell out the benefits you’ll receive by completing the task. If your goal is going to let you buy new clothes, put that in there . If your goal is going to help relieve anxiety, put that in there… It will serve as motivation for you to continue. Motivation is the gas in the tank. Use everything you can to keep the journey going forward.

All of this is a total waste unless you actually execute the goal to the fullest. The day I scribbled the goal down. I started following through. That day I stopped smoking in the car. I stopped smoking in front of my wife and kids. I limited myself to smoking only after a certain time, and stopped smoking after a certain time. The minute you make the goal concrete, start making the changes required to complete the goal. Don’t put it off, don’t say I’ll stop X, tomorrow. If you want the goal, start it immediately.

Lastly, make the goal(s) your priority. Your life is filled with a list of priorities. Every day you juggle them putting the goals\tasks\events in order of importance. If you want to be successful, you must make the true goals, a high priority in your life. Rank them by most important, are they in progress?, benefits to you? Pick the one goal, that you desire and make it your priority, That means it comes before everything else. It has to be the priority. Set the tasks associated with it, as appointments and refuse not to follow through. If I miss a workout, I make it up. If your goal is a college degree, you must put all your effort into obtaining it. Everything associated with the goal has to come before everything else. If you’re invited to a event, make sure that you have nothing with your college goal that should be done, could be done before you attend the event. Make it a priority and keep it on the top of list. On a regular basis re-examine your goal(s) are you on track? Are you actively working on this goal? What’s keeping you from completing it. What do you need to do to keep it progressing.

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